Hornet case necks are notoriously thin and flimsy. I can't remember what brand dies I'm using (either RCBS or Lyman). My method is similar to yours - I use one shot for lube, and I neck size only. I also make sure I use a shell plate with the best possible fit, so the casing goes into the die perfectly straight and square. I really like to use bullets with a boat tail on them, although I still end up crushing a few case necks, here and there, while seating the bullet. Last, but not least, I run them all through a factory crimp die, to help make sure neck tension on the bullet is uniform. Hornet is, by far, one of the biggest PITA cartridges to reload. All you can really do is go slow and, if it doesn't feel right, make adjustments before trying again. Don't give up because, in the end, it is totally worth it to see what those little 35 grain V-Maxes will do to a small varmint.