If it is for your wife, let her handle different pistols, and work the action herself. I made the mistake of buying my wife a Berreta 92FS, and she could not pull the double action first shot. I bought her the gun she picked a Glock 19 9mm, and it is easier for her to handle, and much easier to operate. I too was bit by the 1911 bug. I had a Stainless 1911 .45ACP safe queen that I did not want to carry, or scratch. I made the decision to sell it, and buy another glock, this time a Glock 30 45acp. It has less recoil than the 40 S&W, and is smaller than the fullsize. If the gun is to be used as a CCW, I reccommend the Glock 19, or 26. If you use quality ammo it will be just as effective as the others. Now if it is for home defense, take it from someone with personal expierence there is no substitute for a carbine type rifle, or a good 12ga. In my expierence I went past pistols to get to the rifle.