Ever been beat up by your kid?

canislatrans54

canislatrans54

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Have you ever been beat up by your kid?
As embarrassing as it is to admit, I was yesterday.
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My 24 yr old son, Cody, was over @ my house yesterday afternoon washing some of his laundry. (Why? Because I'm nice & he just started a new job & is broke.)
He brought over with him, a DVD set of the TV series Walking Dead, thinking he could get me to watch it.
Nope, not gonna do it, not the type of "entertainment" that I like to watch.
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Besides, NASCAR was on, & I don't miss NASCAR, if I'm in my own house.
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Well, Cody hates NASCAR, so this didn't sit well with him.
All thru the afternoon, he heckled & pestered me about it.
I just kept thinking he was joking around.

As the afternoon progressed, every time he got up to attend to his laundry, he would also get in my 'fridge, & refill his Sonic cup. I assumed he was just refilling it with water, since I keep 2 pitchers of cold water in there.

Long about 5:30ish, Cody started trying to get me to argue with him about whether NASCAR is "scripted" similar to pro wrestling. I refused to do it. But he just kept it up, & finally got nose-to-nose, wanting to fight!
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Under "normal" conditions Cody has a super-short fuse on his temper, which is highly volatile. For reasons I had yet to figure out, he had snapped & went over the edge.

I refused to get out of my chair, telling him to calm down.
Next thing I know, I'm being pummeled by Cody's right fist.
After the first punch, which caught me above the left eye, I turned my head away from him, & tried to cover up with my arms.
For the next several minutes, Cody took turns between pounding the left side & back of my head...and cussing me for being a super-lousy father while he was growing up. Seems he has been festering some old grudges, both real & only perceived, since he was 8 years old.
(His mom divorced me when he was only 4, & aside from 6 times a year, I had no visitation rights.)

I lost count of how many times he punched me while I sat there in the chair.
He finally started to calm down after a while.
After he did, he apologized, & we has some deep heart-to-heart conversation for a couple hours, until we finally got things resolved.

Come to find out, what he had been pouring himself every time he got into the 'fridge, was whiskey, from a bottle I had in there. Initially, it was full. Now, it's empty. He had drank an entire liter of whiskey in less than 2 hours.
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As I type this, the entire left side of my face is swollen, as well as the entire left half of the back of my head.
I hurt like h*ll, & look like the Elephant Man.
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sorry will, my son got nose to nose with me 1 time, i rabbit punched him in the solar flex and while he was trying to catch his breath i told him I'm the dominant coyote in this house and he better remember to be the submissive pup or move out. never invade my personal space.
he has treated me with the most respect ever since. he was 16 and now is 27.
he now earns my respect for having the biggest heart of anyone i have ever met. everything he does he does wholeheartedly and is the first person to show up when anybody needs help of any kind. his friends see this and take advantage of it when anyone moves,builds fence,builds a house, re roofs a house, paints or any other thing that takes two people.
he is 240 lbs and i still out wrestle him tell he pulls out the secrete move he learned at an early age never hurt dad just tickle him he will exit stage left immediately
 
Will, If thats the way it went down, Sounds like that man needs some Alcohol and anger management therapy, and of course he would be drinking and washing his duds some where else.

Just my opinion for what its worth
 
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^^^ I agree, the boy needs help, and if he can't see it for himself(once he sobered up) I'd tell him in no uncertain terms, take steps to help yourself or stay away.
 
IMO, That young man needs some help and jail could be the place to get it?

You should be the Alpha male in your own home, and that spoiled punk needs some, well, lots of discipline. Kind of like a coward that beats his wife, he will abuse you again if you allow this to go unpunished.

Never once in my life have I thought about taking a swing at my father. He had a temper, but was a great father and treated my mother golden.
 
Originally Posted By: lcpWill, If thats the way it went down, Sounds like that man needs some Alcohol and anger management therapy, and of course he would be drinking and washing his duds some where else.

Just my opinion for what its worth

Yep, that's exactly how it went down. I have no reason to lie.
Cody has had anger issues his entire life, & it has got him in trouble. Just a couple weeks ago he was convicted of battery, for a fight he got into. Judge suspended the sentence, but fined him big time & ordered anger management.
I'm constantly trying to get him to stop drinking & smoking weed. But, as we all know, people won't change unless they want to.

I WILL NOT be helping him with anything for a while. While I love him, I'm not entirely ready to forgive.
I NEVER thought he would punch me w/o me fighting back. But I was wrong.
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He knows I have health issues, & can't stand up to him anymore. Not only is he young, but he's built like a tank. And I have no idea what kind of hand/han combat the Army taught him. So, I admit it...I was a little afraid.
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CL,
I am a Marine with training too. 6-1 and 240lbs, but I am also 51 years old. out of shape, and I wouldn't "want" to fight a man half my age either.

What he did is totally unacceptable. You may try the tough love approach.

Best of luck to you and your family.
 
Will, I'm truly sorry to hear that you had to endure that kind of treatment and, as said, he would never come back into the house until successful treatment had been obtained..

The only time my son ever acted like he was going to get it on with me was many years ago when he was 15 and with a bunch of his neighborhood buddies...

I was in the driveway cleaning on one of my motorcycles when they rode up on their bicycles...After a few smart mouth comments, I told him that if he kept it up, I was going to rub him in a pile of dog crap that had been left in the front yard....

He proceeded to start coming after me and I kept my promise at the cost of a couple of cracked ribs and bruises, but he never came at me since...He's now 32 years older and still remembers that day...However, now that I'm 72 and have some serious health issues, anything close to that activity and someone would be calling an ambulance or medical examiner for me...One of the reasons I'm usually armed when out of the house and keep one in my recliner....
 
well will being dad never ends i just got back from having to run my daughters boyfriend out of her house.
35 years old and still too dumb to stand on her own two feet. now she will have to find a better job to keep her house.
just the threat of me coming was enough i told him he better be gone when i get there or the cops would be right behind me.
i didn't go unarmed but wouldn't have use it unless he made me.
i've told her and told her to make sure she pays all her own bills but she didn't listen.
i guess if she doesn't make her rent she will be on the street as she is not welcome here.
 
Will, this won't get any better and the next time will be even worse, and there will be a next time. You aren't doing him any favors by letting him get away with this kind of abuse as he needs to be held accountable for his actions. I would get a restraining order against him pronto. The next time he could kill you.
 
Originally Posted By: TnslimWill, this won't get any better and the next time will be even worse, and there will be a next time. You aren't doing him any favors by letting him get away with this kind of abuse as he needs to be held accountable for his actions. I would get a restraining order against him pronto. The next time he could kill you.

Yeah, I just realized that I'm glad it didn't happen a few days earlier, on Wednesday.
That was the day we went to the shooting range!!!
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It's pouring rain here, off/on, & he just had the nerve to call & leave a voice message a few minutes ago...wanting me to drive across town (8 miles) & give him a ride home from work because his bicycle is broke down.
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I didn't answer the phone & am ignoring him.
....He just tried calling again!!
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My next door neighbor told me that if Cody shows up & starts anything, to just yell & the neighbor will come running. Vince (neighbor) is a cage fighter, & told me he'll be glad to hold Cody @ bay until the police arrive.
 
Sounds like he could use more than being held untill the police arrive.

Im 27, but have never had any problems with my parent or alcohol.

If he was me or one of my friends I think the best thing to do would be to humiliate him. If he got his @ss handed to him in front of his friends or a bunch of woman it would make him rethink. If he woke up in a strange place butt @ss naked after drinking untill he passed out he would rethink things.

I've got friends that have been in legal trouble, never for anything violent, but the last people that are going to get him thinking straight is the court system.

Let everyone know what he did. Even though you may not want friends and family to know what he did. Everyone will be on your side and he will be singled out as a P.O.S.
 
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I was in the Marines and as a SSGT i had a lot of youngsters to look after. You can't beat them all and you have to learn to pick and choose your battles and there are other ways to assert your seniority without becoming physical.

SO, for starters.. Tell him he is not welcome.. You don't get to drink my whiskey, and use my stuff, and beat on me and say you are sorry and get away with it. There are consequences for your actions as an adult.

Until you are ready to make it right, don't come around here.
Let that stew in.. And until he does something to show you he has taken ownership of his issues and actions, for starters, replacing the whiskey, and then something to show you he is fixing it.. Alcohol or anger classes.. both, mow the lawn, something.

Good luck, but don't let him in the house until he makes it right.
 
Originally Posted By: doggin coyotesOk, it don't happen very often, but after reading this I'm speechless.
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+1 One of the saddest stories I've ever read. I'm very sorry, I doubt your relationship will ever bethe same.
 
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If he was a soldier. He can go to the local VA clinic for free anger Management and substance abuse. I never lost my temper on someone.. But i came close, and went to seek help. I am a lot calmer and better off for it. Especially with 2 little kids. Seeking help is about being a better Man, not admitting your broken.
 
"Speak softly and carry a BIG stick!" - Theodore Roosevelt

There are ways Will. My grandpa used to have a friend that would go out and get drunk on occasion, then come home and beat he11 out of his wife every time he did. After the cussing and raising he11 and beating was over, he'd go crawl in bed and pass out. He was a big ole boy; she was a little petite gal; but one night too many he came home, beat her @ss, went and crawled into bed, and passed out. She'd finally had enough, and when he passed out, she got out her needle and thread and sewed him up in the bedsheets, walked to the bathroom and grabbed a bar of Ivory Soap, slipped it in a sock, and proceeded to give him back every beating she had ever received in life.

As the story was told, there was a lot of cussing and swearing and threatening before the pleading for mercy began, and by the time she was done, he was a changed man. Never took another drink, never layed a hand on her again.

Personally, I'd file charges, and let him go to jail. Or, you could dig out the fishing line, a bar of Ivory Soap, and sit down and feed him drinks until he passed out! And, while I beat him half senseless with that bar of soap, I'd explain that I wasn't going to act that civil if it ever happened again.

 
i dont want to offend anyone, but i read all the posts and here is my assumption/ personal experience w/ all that is posted......... Cody+bike+parents for services/money= tweeker ..... I hope he gets help.....
 
Will my brotha!!! I'm very sorry to read this, I also imagine that knowing your child is capable of something like this is worse than the beating itself. I have admit that reading this made me a bit hot under the collar as I consider you my friend, but I'm not going to say anything derogatory, and I don't really have any advice to give. But I will remind you that you have people here that love you, even if its only me...Lol! And if you need to talk to somebody, shoot me a PM and I'll gladly give you my number.


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