deaddogwalkin
Active member
First thing that I did when my ex filed papers on me. I grabbed all my guns and archery equipment and got them out of the house so that she could not file a complaint that I threatend her with a weapon. Second thing I did was call a very good lawyer. Third thing I did was told her she could have the house but I wanted the kids. She said that there was no way that I was going to get the kids. Being in the state of Iowa a no fault state with a kid that I adopted when we got married. I told her I did not care. Then the lawyer had me get copies of everything credit card statements and bank statement. And then document everything. I also took pictures of the house and videod everything before I would leave with the kids for the weekend. I ended up having 75 exhibits for the judge to look over she only had 3. Make sure if kids are involved that you make it about the kids and not about you or your ex. Stayed in the house for a year sleeping on the floor or on the couch or in the chair. After 3 days of testimony and a month of deliberation by the judge and a pile of money for my lawyer. The judge ruled that she could have the house if she bought me out. She could get half of my 401k since the time that we were married. I would get half the credit card debt which was not much. And I WOULD GET THE KIDS as primary care giver and that she would get them every other weekend and one evening a week for 4hrs. Plus SHE HAD TO PAY ME CHILD SUPPORT and 55% of all uncovered medical bills. That was over 10yrs ago and life is good.
If i could give you any info. It would be life is too short. Get a good lawyer and fight for what you want. The lawyer bill is worth every penny that you pay.
If i could give you any info. It would be life is too short. Get a good lawyer and fight for what you want. The lawyer bill is worth every penny that you pay.