Why do women feel they have play matchmaker

A good lady is tough to find and if you look for the red flags it should keep you our of some trouble. One gal use to call me at home after our date and first I thought it was kind of cute. Then one night I had to stop for gas (going hunting the next day of course) and started to BS with the clerk. When I got home there were 5 messages on the ansering machine and before I listend to the last message the phone rang again. Guess who? I added that to my RED flag list.

I am still looking for my life partner and know she is out there somewhere.
 
SRS1: Women matchmake because it is the nature of the beast. I was single for 35 years, married for 15 and been divorced for 2.
Used to go through the same thing and am starting to hear it again.Used to tell folks that any woman that would marry me would have to be crazy and I didn't want to marry any crazy woman.(Prophetic words, but that's another story.) Now I just say that I don't consider myself available and they pretty much leave it alone.Big difference in being single again is I'm farming and raising 3 kids,working all the time and usually broke.That sounds like at least 3 strikes.Don't let anyone crowd you into anything.In a community property state they get half of everything if they decide to split. Think of that when you are looking at your toys.An old saying goes,"Marry in haste and repent at leisure",but a far worse fate would be to marry into mediocrity, live in quiet desperation, and die by slipping from the memory.
 
< Not married here not dating , and happy most the time. but Bo if you find that one u r lookin for ask if she has a sister that is like her ok lol
FAW
 
I've been married for 38 years. House is paid for, kids are grown and gone, and I'm fairly comfortably retired. If I had it to do over again, honestly, I wouldn't. If there's a woman you're contemplating becoming serious with look long and hard at her mother. I'm thoroughly convinced all women grown to become their mother. It took me years to realize this. I always thought she would in time see her mother for the miserable, hostile cuss she was and refute
her. Didn't happen. Little by little she grew to become just like her. Now I dislike both of them intensely. Women have indeed changed in recent years, and I for one don't like what I see. It's far too easy to make a good life for yourself. You can have women friends, lovers whatever you like. I think women are going through a tough stage right now, not really knowing what they want. It's just too risky for a man to get permanently involved through marriage. I don't mean to sound bitter. I'm not, but I am a hell of a lot more caution than before. Best wishes.

Cal - Montreal
 
Why do you think there are so many "Mother In Law" jokes out there? On lady friends mother said I was talented enough to get a better job that would pay more money. I am a fisheries biologist and was spending half of my time out in the field and when the weather was nasty there was enough office work to keep me warm and dry. I then started to see that the daughter had expensive tastes and wanted to buy the best. My values and hers did not match so I said "so long it's been nice to know you"
 
There is no substitute for a good wife. Period. Yes period, end of discussion.

There are many choices out there. True, you have to be a good husband to them. Neither side has to be perfect, just reasonable.

I have been married for 35 years(I started late) they have been years made much more happy to be shared.

Lots of bad choices out there, you do need to make a good choice.

Jack
 
SRS 1,

Women truely can't stand to see a man happy! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif I personally think a secure, happy, single male seems more attractive to women. If you have a hungry look in your eye, they will run away. If you appear secure and content, they beat a path to your door.

I married when I was 24 (almost 25) and am closing in on my 10th wedding anniversary. I married a wonderful women and we now have two beautiful kids (boy and girl). Now, I will tell you that I do reap the benefits of her being married too young before me. If I ever meet her first husband, I'm gonna shake his hand and thank him for making me look so good. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif

This is the advice I give almost everyone: Girls, don't take a boy from his mother's house to yours. You will be expected to treat him like mom did. And boys, don't take a girl from her father's house to yours. You just become the new daddy and are expected to treat her that way. Two people that have been on their own, know what it takes to make it on their own, and are content on their own, usually have good relationships. People that get their feeling of self worth through others is a recipe for disaster.

By the way, when/if you finally get married, people will just bug you about having kids. Once you have kids, they move on to someone else. Everyone had given up on my wife and I, we did not have our first child until after we had been married about six years. We took that time to enjoy being with each other and decide if we could stand each other for the long haul. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
 
I don't want to sound like I was bashing marriage, I'm not and think it can be a wonderful thing. But the odd's are against a good marriage. I was even close to getting married one time. This gal I knew came back to town for the summer(school teacher), and we got along real well. I was working 10hr days and was staying out with her till 3 in the morning. It went on like this for a few weeks, man I was plum ate up with that girl, and I started thinking marriage. I was wore out and thought cupid had struck. Thankfully she had to go back for school(3hr drive), and I was able to get a nights rest. What wonders that can do for your commen sense. Cause I realized what was happening and was able to prevent it. She wanted me to move into the city, and I just wasn't willing to. So things worked out great for both of us, well... for me at least.
 
I started to get married right out of high school. I told everyone this is the girl for me she is cool with my hunting and everything. Everyone told me wait dont do it wait until your older. So i listend. We a couple months later round about july of last year I was fishing every weekend and working everyday of the week. I would take her fishin now and then but that wasnt enough for her. first thing was she really didnt like fishing all that well, but after a little while she started getting real winey. complaining about everything you know how women are!!! So she really started getting on my friends nerves, with all the nagging and everything. But i was contempt with staying with her. Well after fishin season was over with here came time for yotes and deer!!! well she didnt like that at all Hunting everyday of the week and weekend befor or after i got off work. she started telling me no you cant go hunting no you cant do this no you cant do that. and i started thinking geez all these guys were right telling me to stay away. so to make a long story short i got rid of here real fast. but the thing is she was cool with the hunting and fishing at first but about mid way through the second year things really started to change. Moral of story is take your time befor you do tie the not wait and see how things are gonna be. if its meant to be then no matter how long you wait she will still be there when your ready.
 
A friend of mine back in biloxi,mississippi is a marriage counselor-therapist>something or other.He said women cause 80% of all divorces,they think when a man says i do its his job to entertain them 24/7.If for any reason they aren't happy its somehow the husbands fault.He said during counseling sessions the woman would almost always insinuate he was sticking up for the man.There was a female counselor on the staff and they discussed how sessions went,she told him the women would say >i cant believe you are siding in with him.90% of them cant face reality,ophra and soap opera's aren't reality.
IMO most people you meet today are playing a role,not just women,many men are just as bad!!

I was taught that girls are sugar and spice and everything nice,he's out for himself.ME
 
I thought about getting married once. I took 2 asprin and laid down until it went away! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
 
You guys are a hoot!

Got me a lady who shoots, fishes, and loves football. We get along great. Cute, slender, great cook, and self supporting. We talked about getting married for a long time, but finally both came to realize that by getting married we'd screw up a good thing.

Nothing against marriage, just not good at it.

Anyway, I'd be very careful with the bank lady's matchmaking. Life's too short to make a long term mistake (voice of experience, lol).
 
Well, I met the bank ladies' husband today, he's a UPS driver, and here's the advice he gave me. " If you're happy being single, then it's better to want something you don't have than to have something you don't want."
Now that's the best saying I've heard.
 
SRS1,
I can't believe i haven't heard that one before.My sister told me that>in so many words.

I bet you didn't think this thread would go this far did you?ME
 
Well...

I've only been married once that was 20 years ago, still married, but almost been divorced at least four-five times! I have two great little girls, a wonderful wife(most of the time)and a pretty good life so I'm making the best of what I've got. That's what it all boils down to, making the best of what you've got! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif Nikonut
 


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