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I have been married twice. The first time was for five years. I thought she might be a little more loyal to me than to her first husband. People don't change no matter how much they say they will try to. I think she is on husband number four or five now.
I have been married to the one I have now for twenty years. The divorce will be final in 7 more months. She thought I would somehow turn into her banker dad. I have always been blue collar. I like working with my hands, and never liked sitting at a desk. I thought she would not turn into her mother, Saten's wife. She did. My advice to everyone who will listen to me is, In any relationship, you have to be willing to accept the person for who and what they are. Warts and all. No how much they say they will change, or they want to try to change, they won't. They can't. People, are who they are, and what they always will be. If you don't like something about a prospective mate, learn to accept it, with the knowledge that you will never force a change in that aspect of the person. If you can't accept it as it is, walk away from the person. Don't waste their time or yours. Time is something you can never get back, and it is too valueable to waste. It is much better,(IMO) to be single, than to waste twenty years of your life and loose everything you have worked for in a divorce. The stress will wreak havoc on your health, and leave you a very bitter person. Take them the way they are, or don't take them at all. It's not right to waste their time.
I have been married to the one I have now for twenty years. The divorce will be final in 7 more months. She thought I would somehow turn into her banker dad. I have always been blue collar. I like working with my hands, and never liked sitting at a desk. I thought she would not turn into her mother, Saten's wife. She did. My advice to everyone who will listen to me is, In any relationship, you have to be willing to accept the person for who and what they are. Warts and all. No how much they say they will change, or they want to try to change, they won't. They can't. People, are who they are, and what they always will be. If you don't like something about a prospective mate, learn to accept it, with the knowledge that you will never force a change in that aspect of the person. If you can't accept it as it is, walk away from the person. Don't waste their time or yours. Time is something you can never get back, and it is too valueable to waste. It is much better,(IMO) to be single, than to waste twenty years of your life and loose everything you have worked for in a divorce. The stress will wreak havoc on your health, and leave you a very bitter person. Take them the way they are, or don't take them at all. It's not right to waste their time.